SEXUALITY: WHAT MAKES A GOOD TOP?

Here's a question for all the other "TOP's" out there; "what do you think it is that bottoms want most?" 

Or maybe a better way to ask this question is, "what do you think other gay or bi men want from you during sex? Or what, do you think they are looking for from other tops?"

Conversely, for all the bottom guys out there (especially you hungry, bossy ones), I ask, "what makes a good TOP for you?"

Drawing from my own personal experiences, I would initially answer "well my 9.5 inch cock straight up their ass of course. Long, hard, and deep too..." Pardon my french, I'm just keeping it real. 😋

But there are others out there in the online universe that would suggest otherwise (see below): 

1)  "Listening and being highly attuned to one’s partner’s needs are the key to being the best top in the bedroom.

 2)  Getting consent, whether verbal or nonverbal: a top should be able to “pick up on his (bottom’s) silent and sometimes not so silent cues, you can learn what he likes and doesn’t like,” one Redditor advised. He added: Usually, a bottom wants a top who’s dominant but understands and respects boundaries, sometimes knowing when to push and when to stop. It’s not always about throwing guys around or forcing them on their knees. It’s also about making him relinquish some of his power to you and in doing so, feel a bit powerless". 

3)  On a lighter note, probably the most popular answer you would find would be: lubricant (and silicone lubricant at that). Lube is essential. Use lube, and lots of it.  

4)  Another particular Redditor advised and said that communication is “now a big key to being a good top.” Further, he explained in detail: “Ask them if it feels good, or if it hurts or anything you think that will help you and your partner enjoy it more.” 

5)  Another suggestion was: “Don’t freak out if there's a little mess or smell,  it can make a bottom feel super self-conscious and bad." They way I look at it is, "Hey! Shit happens sometimes (literally)". All the more reason to wear a condom sometimes: it makes for a great quick and easy clean up in which afterwards you can just bounce if need be (no need to linger and/or shower afterwards, you can just bounce). 👍 

6)  And finally (although I think this one is oftentimes way over rated): foreplay, and lots of it, why? Because foreplay can make sex hotter and enjoyable. It can also lower ones inhibitions and make the two of you “feel more connected in and out of the bedroom."

 

 

So that's all I got..what about you guys? What do you think makes a good TOP? 

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